DEAR ABBY: I recently met a man who, even though he asked me to sit down and have a coffee with him, then said he isn’t marriage- or dating-minded. I decided to avoid him, and I’m trying to rid my thoughts of him, but it’s difficult because I feel drawn to him. The last time I saw him, I sat down with him, and he asked to hold my hand. I understand that in dating we may find out that we are not going to get married, but we haven’t even dated yet! I suppose I appreciate that he’s admitting he already knows he doesn’t like me enough to marry me, but why ask to hold my hand then? Why ask me to si…