DEAR MISS MANNERS: A close friend has entertained my spouse and me several times. She is a gracious hostess and often sets out her finest stemware and tableware. My spouse tends to be informal and prefers everyday dishes and glasses to crystal and fine china. My friend has requested that my husband not find his own beverage glass in her cupboard and instead use the ones she has placed on the drink table. I think this is a reasonable request. When I entertain, I like to use my finer party glasses and dishes, and I might be offended if a guest insisted on finding their own pieces in my kitchen c…
