DEAR ABBY: I have one sibling, a sister, who is three years younger than I am. Our mom is very elderly. My sister and I have a terrible relationship. We cannot get along. When Mom dies, would it be okay for me not to go to the funeral? We have no other family, and I have no desire to see my sister. Mom and I have a great relationship. Do other people experience this? I told her lawyer I can’t go. He said he understands. — ON MY OWN IN NEW YORK DEAR O.M.O.: Funerals may seem to be “for” the deceased, but they are really to comfort the living. The time to demonstrate respect and affection is wh…
