DEAR ANNIE: I have been in a relationship with a married man for over 14 years. We’ve known each other for 40 now. He’s been married for 28 years. I’ve been widowed now for nine. He hasn’t told his wife about our relationship. We stopped for about a year. He wants to rekindle what we had, but he hasn’t been completely honest with his wife. She apparently knows something, but I doubt it’s the complete truth. We do love each other and I want to tell her. I am not sure how to deal with this. — Amid an Affair DEAR AMID: This man needs to take responsibility and be honest, with you and his wife. I…