When a loved one dies, be it unexpectedly or after a long illness, the bereaved typically faces a challenge. “First of all, it’s important to grasp the reality of the death and the need to accept it,” says Marei Rascher-Held, co-chairwomen of Germany’s Federal Association for Grief Counselling (BVT). Many experts in the field of grief psychology no longer speak of “stages” of grief that you passively go through, but rather of active “tasks” of healthy grieving, particularly in cases of traumatic losses such as the death of a child or death due to an accident, natural disaster, homicide or suic…