DEAR ANNIE: My husband and I have been together for more than 30 years. He is very loving and a great father and provider. I fell in love with him because he was so level-headed and mild-mannered. We have two grown daughters. Our oldest does not want to grow up and move out. She’s very manipulative and will resort to shouting. My problem is that we may discuss a resolution, but he cannot enforce it. Many times I feel like he defers to her manipulation over our relationship. I feel like I’ll never be queen of his castle. Any advice? — Wife With a Waffling Husband DEAR WIFE: It’s understandable…