DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend’s 36-year-old son refuses to work. He has every excuse in the book. No job is just right for him. Without any education or training, he expects to make $20 per hour. Even then, he either quits or gets fired. He has lived off family for all of the five years I have known him. He couldn’t find a job even part time last year, and never paid rent. We were forced to move. Now we are in a 55-plus community that does NOT allow “children,” and her son is hiding in the living room and porch. He has created a cell for himself. If discovered, the community can evict us. How do we…