DEAR MISS MANNERS: I received a text and pictures from a work friend (who I keep in touch with during my retirement) about her daughter, who had just given birth to a beautiful baby girl. I was surprised, because my friend had not mentioned anything, and was just preparing my “congratulations” and some happy thoughts on her being a first-time grandmother, when she further mentioned that this was a surrogacy, and that her daughter was giving birth for another couple. While I think this is a beautiful and selfless act on the part of her daughter, I was flummoxed as to my response to this new inf…