DEAR ANNIE: More than 25 years ago, my wife cheated, likely multiple times with multiple men. She wanted to divorce me, but I convinced her to go to couples therapy. I won’t go into all the details, except this: The therapist recommended that she not share who the affair partner(s) were. They were a husband-and-wife team of therapists, and I still remember them saying that normally they recommend sharing information, but in this case, they do not. Because of this, I have constant fear and resentment that any male acquaintance is him. This is not good way to live, or stay married. Repeatedly, s…