DEAR MISS MANNERS: During the pandemic, my neighbors both got COVID, and I took meals to them for three days. I asked if there were any dietary restrictions or any foods they just did not care for. Now, my husband and I are both ill, and friends and neighbors are delivering food that I cannot eat, either due to food allergies or IBS symptoms (which I do not wish to reveal). Since no one asked questions about our needs and preferences, I now have pots of soup that I cannot eat — and, while sick, need to. Is there a polite way to say, “By the way, what type of soup are you planning to bring?” O…
